“Live together in the forgiveness of your sins, for without it no human fellowship, least of all a marriage, can survive.”
– Dietrich Bonhoeffer, Letters and Papers from Prison
If you are married, prayerfully consider:
1. You are married to a sinner.
Rom. 3:23: “for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God.”
2. Your spouse is married to a sinner.
Eccl. 7:20: “Indeed, there is not a righteous person on earth who continually does good and who never sins.”
3. Expect and accept that you will sin against each other.
Rom. 7:18: “For I know that nothing good dwells in me, that is, in my flesh; for the willing is present in me, but the doing of the good is not.”
4. Be proactive in forgiving and restoring one another.
Eph. 4:32: “Be kind to one another, tender-hearted, forgiving each other, just as God in Christ also has forgiven you.”
“Marriage is a momentary gift. It may last a lifetime, or it may be snatched away on the honeymoon. Either way, it is short. It may have many bright days, or it may be covered with clouds. If we make secondary things primary, we will be embittered at the sorrows we must face. But if we set our face to make of marriage mainly what God designed it to be, no sorrows and no calamities can stand in our way. Every one of them will be, not an obstacle to success, but a way to succeed. The beauty of the covenant-keeping love between Christ and his church shines brighest when nothing but Christ can sustain it.”
– John Piper, This Momentary Marriage: A Parable of Permanence, p. 178
5. ‘Wants’ are never to be confused with ‘needs’. Never.
Matt. 6:25: “For this reason I say to you, do not be worried about your life, as to what you will eat or what you will drink; nor for your body, as to what you will put on. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothing?”
6. Only God can perfectly and consistently satisfy all your needs.
Phil. 4:19: “And my God will supply all your needs according to His riches in glory in Christ Jesus.”
7. Your spouse is not God.
Isa. 45:5: “I am the Lord, and there is no other; besides Me there is no God.”
Humbly in Christ,
This post first appeared here on Darrell B. Harrison's blog site and was reprinted with permission.